Online Dating Tips
For Women:
- Do not reveal personal information until you are sure you can
trust the guy. If you're in the phone book, all a person needs
is your name and the state in which you live to track you down.
- If a guy pushes for a phone call or meeting before you're ready,
that's a red flag. A godly guy should respect you enough to wait
until you are comfortable moving forward.
- Don't initiate. Let the guy take the initiative in moving forward,
whether it's a phone call, meeting or whatever. Personally, I'd
rather make the intial contact, too. He'll respect you more.
- I recommend using a temporary email address, such as Hotmail,
so that you're not giving out your permanent email address right
away. Make sure you don't put your full name on your whatever
email address you use.
- As as courtesy, you should respond to every guy who writes
to you, even if you are not interested. Come up with a standard
response like; "Thanks for writing. After reviewing your profile,
I don't believe we're a good match. Thanks for writing, and God
bless you." In other words, let them down easy, but give them
the courtesy of one response.
- If you post pictures, PLEASE use discretion with the pictures
you choose. Don't select pictures that are "sexy" (eg. showing
a lot of cleavage or an extremely revealing dress.) This can
give the wrong impression and attract the wrong kind of guys.
(Yes, even on Christian sites there are guys who want a phyical
relationship or are only attracted to the physical.) Also, in
my opinion, it is not a good idea to post pictures from "Glamour
Shots" because they are usually not a good representation of
the "real you." Instead, post pictures that show you doing something
you enjoy, and and that really depict who you are.
- These guys are your brothers in Christ, so treat them that
way.
For Men
- Don't push a women to move too quickly. Be willing to respect
her enough to wait for her to be comfortable before moving forward.
- Remember that these women are your sisters in Christ, treat
them that way! That means honor, respect, kindness, gentleness,
patience and self-control, to name a few.
- NO SEX! You're messing with God's daughter, here. If you think
it's okay to violate God's standard for sexual purity, you're
fooling yourself. And don't play the Bill Clinton game, defining sex only as intercourse.
Sex includes intercourse, oral sex, touching of breasts or genitalia
under or over clothes, simulated sex and masturbation.
- If a women tells you she's not interested, just let it go. You
don't need to respond. There are plenty of other women out there.
:)
- As as courtesy, you should respond to every woman who writes to
you, even if you are not interested. Come up with a standard response
like; "Thanks for writing. After reviewing your profile, I don't
believe we're a good match. Thanks for writing, and God bless you." In
other words, let them down easy, but give them the courtesy of one
response.
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